Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[kissak]

Im really feeling stressed today...cant really explain why....just feeling that way...I know its the things at work that is making it that way...bills coming in, but no money. Things with H still the same, not going anywhere...been stressing out about the whole mess lately and what I should do about it. Kids are back in school which Im glad of, but with that, other stresses come along...like things the kids need which cost money $$$. Sports, etc...

Im really just tired of doing it all on my own...with my H just in the background. Im really really tired. Not only that, Im just tired of being alone...I want someone to spend time with too. Sorry..just feeling a little down today and not really anyone to talk to about it, but you guys....YOu are the only ones that really understand.

I need some encouragement...

[Grace_O]

((((kissak))))

Must be the phases of the moon or something. I'm right there with you. I know exactly what you mean about being tired. Tired of all of it. Sometimes it feels like I'll be stuck in this mess forever. Like nothing changes. In truth though, I have seen changes. I just have my little pity parties.

Having said that though, I know it will get better. We just have to tough it out. What do you do that makes you feel good? I've taken up bellydancing. Sometimes I feel like a fool, but I can laugh at myself (at least).

Look at how long you've been at this and how far you've come. I know you've got steel in your veins.

What sports are the kids doing now?

[kissak]

Thanks Grace for stopping by...Things do get a little overwhelming for me sometimes...Like being a single parent for one.... Im handling it, but like you said...sometimes I do feel as if I will be stuck in this mess forever!

Steel in my veins! lol....I guess that's how i make it day to day!

My daughter starts soccer practice today...she has never played before so Im not sure if she will stick with it or not.

My son is all about some baseball! But that wont be going on again till maybe the fall.

Good news though! My daughter went to school yesterday without her hat! She didnt pull her hair either. SHe had kids compliment her on her hair all day. Im praying that is a good thing! I feel so very happy for her this year...she is excited and loving school and its only the second day! I have decided to hold off on giving her her Ad HD meds for a while, IM thinking maybe they kinda are the cause of her hairpulling...but Im not sure...Im just hoping she will be able to concentrate on her work with out them.

[Grace_O]

It's great that your daughter is playing soccer. That she's willing to give it a shot and see if it's her thing is what's important IMO.

I'm really glad to hear she has been doing better with the hair pulling. I like your idea about the meds. You can just watch and see. That's what I'm doing with my D (who won't wear hearing aids).

The steel you have is exactly how you get from day to day. That you get up and keep doing it is what makes you awesome.

[kissak]

Thanks Grace...I appreciate that. Im doing better right now. I think, lol. I had a friend stop by and we talked for a while. I think alot of my problem is being alone with my thoughts....its not a great place to be! lol, I hate being alone during the day.

[mishka422]

(((Kissak)))


Sounds like you've gotten a handle on the emotion. That's great that you can rebound so quickly from the 'blues' now. I'm so happy for you!!!

WOW!!! Your D went without her hat? That's fabulous! What an accomplishment!!!! Out of curiosity, does she have a special permission from the school to wear a hat or is that not a rule there? The reason I ask is that there is a girl in Marc's high school with alopecia (sp?) and they won't permit her to wear a hat in school. I think it's terrible that they won't since she wants to wear only a plain cap with no printing on it at all. Her head is still patchy and she said she wants to wear the hat until it all falls out. Of course, they permitted a cancer patient going through chemo to wear her hat during treatment. Weird double standard going on in our schools here I think.

I feel you on the being a single parent. Dealing with absolutely everything while xh plays occasional visitor in our son's life makes me crazy. Exhaustion reigns supreme in my life these days.

[kissak]

Mishka,

My daughter's school will not allow them to wear hats, or bandanas. BUT because she had a doctor's note to wear one, they allowed her to do so. Maybe that girl can get her doc to write a note...its a shame that the administration wont make some exceptions at that school...but of course my daughter is only in middle school...next year will be high school and im not so sure how it will go then...

I do think I rebound alot quicker than I use too...funny I was feeling all down today and stressed out....really I hadnt heard from my H all day...which is very unusual...he called tonight, said he was having a bad day and wasnt in a talking mood...wouldnt say what was wrong though....maybe being a man without his family is getting to him???? nah, probably just missing his exgf and his money too. Who knows.

Tomorrow is another day though...

[Andabelle]

I didn't know your D had Trich-- I am a hair puller, too (although shifted mostly to cutting/shaving). How long has she been doing it?

[kissak]

wow andabelle, I didnt know that! She has been doing it for about 3 years or so now.... Seems to be better controlled in the summer when she is at home and not in school....she has pulled all her hair out at one point in time....she told me yesterday that she did pull a little...Im so afraid she will have to go back to wearing a hat...she loves her hair right now...I know she hates pulling, but as you know, she just cant help it at times.....How are you doing with it?

[Andabelle]

I'm glad hers has grown out! I deal with it by keep it REALLY short-- I have a pair of clippers at home. As long as I keep it short I don't pull.

I'm sure your H's revolving door antics have caused her a lot of stress-- was that a contributing factor to her pulling (and if so, does your H feel like a jerk about it)? Mine started after a major trauma.