I'm thinking about acting as if everything is working out. This takes the anxiety out of my day-to-day interactions with my W. Also, should I take her Retrovaille acceptance as a positive or is she just trying to lessen the guilt she has over this whole situation?
I believe it is important for you to be relaxed during this time and if acting "as if" will do it for you, then I think that is the way to go. I know men have a problem with acting lovingly detached. They have a hard time understanding that concept and usually when they try to act detached....they merely act "cold" or rude and that is not what you need to do right now. A lot of guys tend to go too far the other direction when they are trying to be detached. I agree with what Sara has suggested. Act "as if" but watch that you don't pursue and I think that will the best path for now.
Can't add any more than Sandi other than to say understanding detachment is sometimes difficult for some people. Try thinking of your W as an attractive co-worker. You aren't going to do anything with her (as long as you have a brain), but that doesn't mean you do not try to project an image of "confident pleasantness."
