Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
Family day went well.


Good for you smile

Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
How do I not get my hopes up?


Just go day by day, minute by minute.

Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
I told him instead that I was getting emotional and that I would prefer not to have the talk over dinner.


This is freaking awesome! I have only learned to do this recently and I have been at this A LOT longer than you. GOOD FOR YOU!


Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
How do I sit with the good days and not fear that tomorrow will be more "I'm moving on, nothing will change, I won't take the risk?"


Keep reading about loving detachment. It takes forever to get this.

Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
I want him to run to my arms and say things are changing and he's hopeful. That of course won't happen for a long time


Keep this as your goal. Don't forget it. Use this as motivation to stay patient. Be sure not to "temperature take." Breathe.

Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
I'm afraid the changes will be too little too late and my hopes will be dashed after lovely days like today. I want to take him in my arms and make up


I can feel your pain. Boy...I can relate. You're going to have to expect more ups and downs. You've made it through these, you'll be able to make it through more. You can do it!

Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
Advice on hanging in there?


You're already doing it. Be sure to watch the backsliding. Fight it! Be patient. Keep with the 180's. Be patient. Use the GAL as a tool. Temperature taking and backsliding is what has drug my sitch on for such a long time. You have all of the tools you need.


Me: 35
W: 31
S:9
M: 10 years
Together 13
MySitch - Ups & Downs
She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.