BBJ. you sound pretty assertive right now. Organized and ready to go. Good for you. I am curious about a few things you wrote; Where is Dan's mailbox? Is the bank statement still addressed to both your names? What is his reaction when you bring up proof vis a vis the method used to obtain it (in other words. does he not ask why are you opening my mail?). Finally, how much proof do you need...he has a history of betrayal and lying. I am sorry to say that this type of behaviour may leave for a short period of time but usually resurfaces.