Hi Nell,

All is great with me. Health update- I feel a little stronger each day. I can walk fairly well now and I'm much straighter. My scars are healing nicely.

My mood is back to normal ie fairly happy and upbeat. I think it was the surgery that really played around with my emotions and it caught me off guard. As for H I really believe that what I am doing now is the only course of action I can take. I think H was feeling pretty good knowing he had me as a back up plan if it didn't work with ow. I know I'm worth more than being a back up plan. I want the real deal, not to wait for the crumbs.

I read what Gucci said to you and I could apply it to me. I have to let go, relinquish my attempt at control and let it go. It's tough and it's a risk but the way it's going I've made progress but it's been super slow. I'll just test this out and if it doesn't work I can always go back.

Been thinking of 2 couples I know. The first reunited after 3 years. They split, eventually both started dating others and then rekindled their relationship. The 2nd example H had A and W refused to speak to him except for essentials. Divorce. H stayed with Ow for nearly 4 yrs. W met new partner. 4 yrs after separation H text W out of blue to see if they could meet. H wanted to resume R but W was committed to new partner. Both stories involved time and distance, not a pursuing W.

Lessons for me!

I will pop over to see how your day has been Nell

Cas