(((GAG))) Yes he does value affluence. I thought he didn't as I don't particularly. We struggled for money for a long time in the beginning and it was only when we both finally got reasonably paid jobs that he left. He didn't even wait for my first pay cheque! He likes to flash the cash but so far it hasn't been on me. Perhaps that is something I can work on. I've been offering to pay in the past. Perhaps with my new turn-around I won't, and let him pay his way and perhaps more... something to think about, thank you.
(((Nell)) Well, deep down it does of course bother me. But, I came to DBing late in the game 6 months after he dropped the first bomb. I spent those six months pursuing. I think when the bomb first hits you have a lot more leverage with your h. After spending 6 months being completely desperate I had a lot of work to undo. Also, by the time I found out about ow he was moving in with her and moving on with his life. I don't really have a lot of choice in my actions if I want to reconcile, which I do. I spent a long time building up positive interactions and being consistent with him again as he was too scared of my reactions to speak to me and too guilty and now I am sitting back and enjoying life and seeing if he is willing to make any sort of effort. So far, I’m not unimpressed with his efforts. And it is also semi-gratifying to know that whilst he is with ow he is communicating and thinking about me.
Let the man pursue you and don't shut down his attempts at communication - especially because you are hurt. It just makes him shut down. Accept the gesture with grace not because you need him to make these gestures but just because he is.
