UPSIDE DOWN and struggling badly.

[Eskimo Nell]

Something that I have just read on someone's post has made me wonder ...

H has made no secret of the fact that there is something missing from his life right now and he continues to make me believe that it is because OW lives interstate (or that it is impractical for them to co-habit???) - meaning that he can't spend as much time as he would like with the tramp. She has kids too, which has to be another significant issue for H - he was the one that was so adamant that we wouldn't have any (I didn't care either way). He never tells me anything about it but it's just stuff that I am picking up on - I don't know if I am right or maybe miles off the mark. What I do know is that the past twice I have seen him, he has told me that he is in a "pissy mood".

If next time, and I am sure there will be, he tells me he is a bit fed up of things right now (which he will, I'm sure) do I respond and say "well, I'm sorry that you are feeling this way and your life is not working out as you wanted it to, but it was your decision. WE didn't have those issues but now I guess that you are forced to deal with the life that you have chosen". Is that the way to go in showing him that I am detaching or are those words dismissive and even passive-agressive??

I might add that he has only ever met OW 5 times although has known her in a business sense (email and phone) for past 18 months/3 years but can't work out which is right as H has told me both in the past!