I agree with the pulling back from the weird idea. Give yourself the space. Give yourself the time to search your feelings of why are you riding the rollercoaster without having to ping pong from his mixed messages. I totally relate to the ups, downs, sideways, backs, forths, etc - as you know my H goes from rages to happy family days. I can't figure it out either, and the best is to focus on ourselves. Get a breather and detach. Lighten your load. Clear your mind.
