I do think trust can be restored. But only when the offending party is willing to make the injured feel safe again. It's built back brick by brick little by little. But it's a mute point unless he's willing to grovel and make amends. But he's so arrogant and selfish, I don't know when he'll come to his sense. It's so painful to have someone treat your love like that. Some people just don't know how to love Lola, or appreciate when someone loves them.
I can relate to what you say about missing who he was. Those of us left behind do tend to look back with the rosey glasses and see all the best parts of the r. I remember telling my xh during our bomb phase that all our experiences were like pearls and how they were all strung together to make a chain that becomes more and more valuable with each added pearl. I tried ot appeal to all those good memories. But he was stringing new pearls with ow and it meant nothing to him. Ultimately we just can't make someone see what they don't want to see.
I saw your pic. I guess I did find it in my original search but didn't realize that was the right one and you described yourself as having a wtf expression, but I didn't read it like that. Wow there you are in the paper. Cool.
