Don't listen to, nor try to analyze what your h says. Cheaters are liars. Actions are what you look for, and it seems your h has a L. That speaks volumes.
Please, try not to get sucked in by any "confusing" talk from him. I have seen a lot of WAS's try to stall you so they can get their ducks in a row and really stick it to you. Has he broken it off with ow and begged forgiveness?
The A your h is in is the most dangerous kind, financially. He and ow are most certainly planning to grab any assets they can. Have L freeze the assets and don't worry about making your h mad. If he really loves you, you would think that he would respect the fact that you are trying to protect marital assets, not allow him to use them to finance a new beginning with someone else.
I know you love him and are in great pain right now. But you will be in even more pain if you lose BOTH your h AND the $$$.
