"I would like to agree and be able to say that he doesn't have anything to offer me but he really does! That's why we are such a good team .. we compliment each others abilities and capabilities - our morals and ethics are a good match - he's just relinquished his over to the aliens ... but I do believe and I will continue to DB until he takes that trip back to planet Marriage and realises that he has a W who has made changes - permanent changes - for herself primarily but for a better marriage as a bonus. If he can't see that would benefit him in happiness and all the things that he says he wants, then that's his choice."
The problem is you still put so much faith in him (which is okay to have), that you are putting your own welfare in danger. You say that it's HIS choice. What about YOUR choice?
That's what DBing is about. It's not just about trying to get your spouse back, it's about living to your potential so that you can stand on your own two feet and not rely on your spouse.
Right now he's not attracted to you because you seem to be living off him. It's not true, but that's his perception right now. What can you do to dispel that? What do you want and have to do for you?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
