I think my wife may also have so much resentment and anger built up after 21 years, that dbing or anything, just puts a band-aid over the wounds. I often feel that she just gets through each day and never deals with what is at the core of her, until it just bursts out.
I think too often we don't really live. I'm not in MLC, but realize I am at mid life and don't want to waste days. I want to live fully completely. Of course, I would prefer to do that with my wife, but maybe that just can't be done with 21 years of "stuff".
At the same time, the thought of starting over on my own or with someone else isn't very appealing.
Still looking for feedback on what I should do at the end of the night - text or call her? or nothing?
