well- according to an email I read recently from the woman who is probably the 1st OW, yes, this is his second. I suspected before but had no proof so chose to trust. Why do I want to be together? Because I have spent the past 4 years of my life in love with him, dreaming about a future together. For some reason I've thought he'll change- this is just do to the stress he's had in life, etc. Now knowing that at the very least there was 1 EA and 1 instance of inappropriate online activity, I feel differently toward him. I still want to be with him, but he would have to regain my trust AND change the way he treats me, no longer taking issues out on me emotionally. Probably he won't do that, so I just have to accept that he must choose. I feel better now that it's out in the open- he has succeeded in making me feel badly about not asking about it before going to my parents- it's just that he's been so mean to me lately I couldn't be brave enough emotionally to do it.
