sounds like things are looking up for you. YOu should read some of the other forums about 'seperated, now what', and 'the divorce is happening' type of forums. (If you haven't already) It may give you some insight on what has happened to people that are in the same place in their M as you are.

hope the good news and quiet times keep happening for you

Me-31
Him-28
D1-9
D2-6
Married 5-06
Seperated 12-07
He filed 1-08
Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08
Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09
Filed for D 4-28-09
Trying to make a go of it 6-09