LOL, yes Frank, I play chess... Since I was 8. Not good, but I can play.
I am not entering the competition. I have no guilt to handle. When S tod me I said "wow, amazing!!! Thank your dad for all he has ever done to make you happy, like this trip he arranged today". You all know what I meant but I was sweet and funny and also shared his excitement so, he was relieved he told me the surprise I knew nothing about.
A friend told me today :when there is a crisis, there is change.
I was reading an article lodo posted a link for on his thread. How a woman, 7 years after the divorce, already in a good relationsip, wishes she had more patience and clear head. I think that did it to me last night.
M, I read the same article on Lodo's thread yesterday & spun out a bit. I think I'd better stay away from reading along those lines for a while.
"wow, amazing!!! Thank your dad for all he has ever done to make you happy,"
Apparently the mods decided that the article was an advertisement so they pulled it. Anyone in the alt care to give me a link to it there? I'm curious what it was about since it seemed to have struck a chord with a lot of people.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Apparently the mods decided that the article was an advertisement so they pulled it. Anyone in the alt care to give me a link to it there? I'm curious what it was about since it seemed to have struck a chord with a lot of people.
Not an illegal link, but you can google the following:
Why I (and, I suspect, many separated women) regret divorcing
Thanks for linking. I never married my D's Father, and we split when she was 3 yrs old. But I can relate very much to the things this woman talks about. The awkward holidays, and in fact almost all of it I can say I can understand. We were not in love and were not married. Yet I regret that my D hasn't had the same stable home experience that I was raised with. I feel badly that she has missed out on having both parents close at hand on a regular basis. It feels like a failure and a disappointment. Whenever you make someone "family" and then cut them out, I don't think you can walk away free and clear of the ties and bonds that were formed. This was an interesting read, I think it could provoke some melancoly moods around these parts. I have no kids w/ my xh and have no desire to see or hear from him ever again. I've not hit the 7 yr mark yet, but can't imagine it would matter. We are split pretty cleanly and I even gave up friends that preferred to keep his company. We share nothing in common so I can't imagine having those feelings over the D. So it's not necessarily a blanket statement that everyone should expect this experience. I think if you share children, then yes you may be more inclined to feel some level of regret. No hijack intended, just followed the link out of curiosity and wanted to add my comments about it.
How stupid can a person be when you tell them that their leg is rotten and they will soon die of it and they still refuse to cut it? Maybe it's the part of feeling left weak and vulnerable afterwards? Who knows?
