Ok so today I had an adventure that I wanted to relay to wife but I also wanted to tell her a few things about my feelings. I did not want to start off with the adventure and then lead to the “talk” as an after thought so………
Me: W I am really tired of dealing with what we have. I know you know my feelings but I have more to say so you can never say “I did not know”
I have Never cheated on you or lied to you while were married so again I am just being honest.but for the last two years I have been though hell...
W: I know you have
Me: Until you take care of your issues and can let yourself love someone… Love Anyone. You have problems. I feel I have done 80% of the work on our marriage.
W; I agree
Me: When I was talking to my buddy that I am going to see in Washington I told him we have been separated for over a year. He asked me why and I said that you have issues and I am just tired of dealing with them. It feel sad that I lost the battle but it felt good to finely tell someone. I am tired of hiding this and I will no longer do it. I am not going to go out and tell everyone but if someone asks... We are separated” I know the OM in not the issue but every night when you close your bedroom door on me in my mind he might as well be in there with you. I am not angry and I hope you do not take this as me wanting to start an argument. I am just telling you how I feel.
W: I don’t want to argue either.
Me: when I get back from Washington we can discuss where we go from here.
W: That sounds fair
Me: Ok so to be clear I am considering us “separated”
I then proceeded to tell her about my day..
W later came into living room and told me about her day as if we never had the talk so I guess I did good..
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
