your sitch seems to be unique in that you were thinking about becoming a WAW but your H became the WAH first and now you are the LBS?
It is unique in some ways but similar in others.
I was a WAW who would never leave. Even when I suggested we separate (out of desperation) he said "but I love you..." and he left a month later.
Somewhere in there, I was reaching out to him clearly expressing that I could feel our marriage ending and I wanted to come back together but that I felt I was in purgatory.
I see our sitch as similar to many here because we stayed in limbo for so long and we both felt left in a way. H says that I killed our marriage. I look back and see where I was trying and other times he was and we just kept missing each other. Like how you tell a kid to stay in one place if they're lost so they can find you...I was looking for him and he was looking for me but we weren't finding each other...make sense?
It is so sad BUT, there is so much more to it and I have always been loyal to him and clear that our marriage is important. I regret that in frustration I would say "I can't take it anymore" or "I can't stand you" or things of that nature...but I know that I was suffering and in a sad fog and he had a lot to do with it.
Anyhoo, sorry for going off...I just think that while we all have our unique situations, there is a commonality to most and so much we can learn here from each other.
