Need Advice, WAW wants to give it a month

[trrose]

Ok if you read my sitch...i have to have a strategy to get a grip on this thing.

My w just called to ask me if it is ok if her friend takes her out for a birthday drink tonight (friend is guy and gay). now this is after she was out till midnight on Monday.

I told her that i had to work late tonight and she had to get the kids...but its a situation we have to chat about and come to an agreement because its causing stress.

she asked me why its a big deal i told her

1. we have a 4 and 1 year old it takes work
2. i cant be seen as the built in babysitter
3. it makes me question if she wants to spend time with me and the kids.

she denied 2 and 3...i am finding it so difficult to speak to my wife i think most things are so contentious right now..everything used to work and now very little does work.

Meanwhile we have a family picnic on Sunday...im bringing the kids and she isnt going bec she doesnt want to go