Will jealousy work on my wife? She really beleives that she loves this other guy I think. Question is:can that feeling for him fade completely? If we get back together will she go back to him if he leaves his wife? I dont know if I want to find that out.
I don't know if it's really jealousy that will work, but rather the thought of losing you, your history, your love, and the intact family that comes with it all. Keep doing what you're doing. Let her see you have a great time with the kids, let her see you going out all the time, doing things she doesn't know about, except maybe gets a hint every now and then.
Your situation seems somewhat similar to mine, and my W was (is?) absolutely head over heals for her OM. I was convinced there was nothing I could do to pull her from him. She was lost, so I let her go, GALed, and started my own social life back up. I got in great shape, I was always happy and fun when I saw her. I returned to who I was when she met me, actually even better. I'm not available to her all the time when she asks. You know what's happened? She seems to be preferring me to him now, at least some of the time. She pursues me, wants to do things with me. She is still involved with OM, but I don't care what she says, there is no way she is 100% committed to him any more, which is remarkable given where she was six months ago. No woman who is committed would act like she acts towards me. I take great pleasure in knowing that she is probably lying and pulling the wool over OM's eyes, leaving him ignorant of what's going on between her and I. Turnabout is fair play.
Will this all be enough to save our M? Do I even want her anymore? I don't know, but I do know in my case the bond between my W and OM was not as unbreakable as I thought. Not when she was truly faced with losing me, rather than just seeing me hurting and longing for her back. Wow, I look back and see myself as so pathetic.
