Sometimes DBing is all about the baby steps. I cannot tell you how many times I backslid in the beginning, and my stbx accused me of the same thing...trying to manipulate the situation. And at first, he was right. But eventually he was wrong, and although I did want to resolve our issues, I also respected the fact that he didn't.
Pressure will push someone away fast. No more relationship talks. This is very hard. Because we are theoretically the injured party, we want answers, but they are answers that may never come. Pushing is not going to get answers, but only more questions. And it is frustrating.
I think one of the biggest pluses is to go on like he is not coming back. This does not mean you have to date or anything like that, but don't worry about what he might think. You are entitled to have your own life now. This was his decision, not yours, so let him live with it a little.
((((Hugs)))))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
