Oh I'm not ruling it out. I'm just putting it in the backburner for now. Plus they don't have Retrouvaille programs out here in Hawaii. So I've been trying to find something comparable.
The thing is that my W has shown signs of doing things for me that I mentioned I needed. She doesn't have to, especially since she said she wanted a D. Sometimes I feel like she's testing the waters or has glimpses of coming out of the fog before being enveloped in it again.
The thing is that when we were physically S, she said she felt free. Well no kidding since she had the kids only half the time, so she could do whatever she wanted. She knows she can do that now, but she doesn't act on it.
I've also thought about the idea of going out with other people. I did that when we were S as well. Unlike your H, she didn't call or contact me at all for 4 months. Of course, we were at a different place than we are now.
So I do think she needs something major to shake her up. I totally agree. Going for an ultimatum will come in to play, but not just yet.
While you were in your mindset of taking care of everyone else's needs but your own, if you saw your H interested in another woman, would have done anything about it or do anything to prevent it?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
