My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[RedSoxFan]

Am I mind reading?

IMO, yes.

You didn't put her in any position here. She planned the trip with the kids, you pointed out that it was an error in judgement, she agreed and now she has to deal with it.

The resentment comes with the territory but the sooner you separate the past from the present, the sooner she will.

I guess I am saying that she needs to work through her feelings of resentment and process and I don't think you can make up for the past by trying to make it easier for her now in a sitch she created (the weekend). That's just my opinion. It is an unhealthy dynamic. Either she will see your changes and believe you and want you or she wont.

Thanks for the reassurance. Do nothing is what I shall do. BTW. she didn't plan anything with the kids. This is just an important event memorializing OM's best friend who died. There is a huge expectation from OM that she will be there.

She mentioned ion our heart-to-heart a few days ago when I asked what could I have done, she answered nothing...in other words keep quiet about my feelings and let her move on with her life. I asked her what she would have done if the roles were reversed and there was no answer.