I was there. She is not going to do anything about it. She has resigned herself to this life.

In the mean time you, she and your kids are getting short-changed.

You tell her you wont settle for x or y but where's the or else?

What is your bottom line?

It has been a lot longer than 5 months.

When I crack the code as to what would have woken me up other than H leaving, I'll tell you.

But Retrouvaille would have helped, I know it. Feeling estranged from my H depressed the sh*t out of me. I just did not know what to do about it.

Why would you rule that out?