Just want my H back

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Hi hhh,

I'm riding the "ups and downs" with you. Just the other day, my W said I haven't changed a bit...same 'ol LFH. I completely disagree with her, but she's entitled to her opinion. I've lost 40 pounds (for me) and have become a happier person. Work no longer influences my day-to-day disposition like it did 5 months ago. And I've gone from being a good father to an awesome father. I still need to work on the "being critical" part of my personality, but I can't change everything at once...or I'll have no success at all. Sometimes I think our "walk-aways" have become too sensitive to our faults. You can do things correctly 99% of the time, but our spouses will crucify us for the other 1%...IMO.

I'm not sure if you need to show your WAS that you've changed. Just go about your daily routine and make yourself happy. I think our "walk-aways" will notice our changes once we've dropped the rope and have moved on. Remember, our changes are for us...not for them. Just focus on improving yourself one day at time. If you have one foot on today and one foot on tomorrow...you'll fall on your arss.

Hugs,
LFH