In Limbo

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I wasn't necessarily brought up that way to hide the emotions. Just over time, I guess I learned to sequester them.

I am starting to understand more that in her mind she was trying to pretend and please everyone her whole life. So whether I was super husband or not, this was bound to happen sometime. I just wish there were more signs along the way. I do get we never really developed a good method of communication between us either. Otherwise, I would have had a better idea of what she was thinking.

I do continue to buy into the rewrite. I do let it effect me. You sometimes think were we living a lie this whole time. Why would she have wanted a fourth child with me if she was feeling this way...

I can tell that I am still trying the quick fixes. Not necessarily to change things right now. But to just get her to think that trying at a certain point may be worth while. I know that is something that I can't do anymore. It just bugs the hell out of me that she can just go on and act like nothing is wrong day in and day out. I am always the one that seems to be having a hard time getting through this emotionally.

I did read some of your thread yesterday Jimbo. Not sure if this is something you want to answer. What is the status of your relationship? Did your wife ever come back? Did you divorce? Are you still in limbo?

It looks like around month 6 is when you started to really get how to handle things with your W.

Thanks.