If you can, wait for her to come to you. If you offer to take the kids, you're influencing her decision.
On this one, I would keep it open and be prepared to keep them (though normally I would say never to be that available but this once...).
Let her figure it out and come to you.
She's in a tough spot. She already brought up the dilemma to me which must have been hard for her. She kind of hinted at her need for kids to be with me. I doubt she'd mention it again. If she left them with sitter then she would be opening herself up to potential criticism from me (though I wouldn't criticize her, in her mind she's already questioning herself as a mother).
So if she's OK with hurting him then my sitting tight will be fine. If she's not then She might really resent me for putting her in the position.
Am I mind reading?
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
