Retrouvaille hasn't come up yet. I don't think that's the issue here. She's got to work through her problems on her own and not bury it in the needs of the kids. Laura Munson's H went through it for about 5 months before he made an effort. And only because the light came on and he figured out that he needed to take care of his issues and they weren't hers. Many of the things I've read about people in MLC from here and other places, talks about "coming out of the fog". It's like they are conscience of what they're doing, but feel helpless and that they can't do anything about it. So they lash out in anger because they can't understand it. Then they have a lightbulb moment and say "hey! I have to own up to my own sh*t".
I have told her to get help and in the email I told her that I'm not interested in a platonic relationship nor am I going to be someone's second choice. So she knows where I stand about M. The thing is, for someone who was so gung ho about getting a D and moving on, she hasn't done squat about it.
In fact, yesterday she was telling me how we needed to buy new furniture for our D's room. HELLO! If we're planning to D, then we can't afford furniture. It'll all be for the lawyers.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
