I don't think he's still in the affair. I check the the phone detail online daily. He hasn't used the computer in days (yes, I'm sure), I know where he is, and we don't have any extra money that I wouldn't know about for a prepaid phone. I think maybe MLC?

I think our problems now are less from the affair, but from the confusion / pain he's feeling since and from how we've both handled things.

I will not call him anymore unless I need about work or the kids.

As for goals for me:
1. Eat healthy and exercise - lost 20 lbs so far
2. Work my designs (I design knitwear on the side)
3. Focus on my kids
4. Whip this house into the shape I want it in.


Me 34
H 37
Kids 7 & 4
Married 12yrs, together 17
Kiss/EA lasted 2 weeks.
NC since 8/7