But, the goal...I don't have one anymore other than handling my life with sanity and civility and setting small goals that I can meet.
Where H fits in this, I'm not sure. But, I know I do not feel good this morning, so that's a clue.
I responded to the text but not the email invitation.
I'm kind of on the other side of the fence from you AAK. Kind of where your husband is. My hope/wish for W would be that she either decides that she's 100% finished with me or that she decides what criteria might allow her to consider having me back and be diligent about allowing things to evolve and unfold in a way that is safe and fair for everyone.
I get that this is idealistic and unreasonable for me to expect this but that's what I would wish for. Just seems to me that if either or both parties can have a plan it would increase the likelihood of a better outcome.
Absolutely, but I had a plan and it failed and I was miserable. I have a very clear understanding of what happened with us. He knows my expectation for a marriage with him would require us to do specific things with me...
I have not gotten ONE word that indicates he wants or is ready to get back together.
All I have is that when I pull away, he comes toward me...that's it.
If he said he wanted to get back together, that might be different.
If he came to me with a plan...that would be hot hot hot.
If he wants to date me, he can treat me like a lady...the invitation was a start.
So, to be clear, you are where my H MAY be eventually, but he has no where near the level of contrition, clarity or understanding that you do.
