EXCELLENT job, just excellent... You need to use your new knowledge to help others to see the error of their ways on this senseless hanging in there and hoping things will get better and suddenly the WS will wake up and come running back . They usually don't.
Yes I will try to help others. Even if we end up D I have seen that the other strategy (hanging on) doesn't work.
I turned a corner when I finally saw what I looked like in her eyes (weak). I thought about what I would do if she were a girlfriend who broke up with me and I wanted to get her back - the things I was doing were NOT the right strategy and would never work. However, you can't just 'act' a certain way, you have to really FEEL like you don't need them and that if for whatever reason they decide they want to come back you can decide what to do (your decision, not theirs). Sandi told me they can see it in your eyes and its true.
I went through a cycle like this with an old girlfriend or two waaaaaay back in HS and it is amazing that some of the same principles still apply. We forget that after being with someone for so many years I think.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
