You have a very skewed sense of what you can control here. You aren't "allowing" her to go to him.
I don't for one minute think that I'm 'allowing' her to do anything. Just a misuse of words as I'm hurrying to get things posted in between work meetings :-O
I have made it clear that I don't blame her or hold it against her that she's moved on. She also knows that I love her and that I want to save our marriage. That puts pressure on her. It could be pressure because she cares about me or him or she'ss just human or all three. I don't know.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
