Good job. Yes, it is textbook. You are just ANOTHER example of this happening. Glad you listened. Feels good to get strong and make a stand doesn't it?.. Not only that.. It WORKS much better than hanging in there...
Now.. It is important how you continue to handle this...
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am not completely ready to believe that this is happening because her behavior is so erratic and this was just a small movement in the grand scheme of things, so I am going to continue the way I was going and observe what happens
The key comment you made here is.. "I am going to continue the way I was going and observe what happens"
Now.. DO JUST THAT. Let HER do what is necessary to make this right. IF she means it, then she will.
Your attitude should be this.. For example... Regarding the OM...
"I am not going to be your daddy and force you to do anything EVER AGAIN. (which means you put NO PRESSURE on her to dump the OM)(that will come because of her fear of you letting go..) I do know that I WILL NOT SHARE a woman of mine ever again."
That is the attitude. You need to keep doing just like you were, which was talk in "past" terms. (that was very wise of you and don't stop doing it UNTIL you are convinced that she means business.)
EXCELLENT job, just excellent... You need to use your new knowledge to help others to see the error of their ways on this senseless hanging in there and hoping things will get better and suddenly the WS will wake up and come running back . They usually don't.
Glad to see she responded. Not surprised, but glad for you.
