Sorry to jump in so far along in the game, but I have been monitoring your situation.
First question; is it possible she has been sexually starving you in order to be 'faithful' to the [censored]? How long has the affair been going on?
Is it possible that the whole affair is staged as a retailiation? From what you have written, something is amiss, or possibly, you are holding back some additional info?
As for the fear, you had to know that there was a chance all this would blow up in your face when you left, right?
Regardless, it sure looks like you might be the monkey on her string. Manipulation would appear to be the keyword in your situation. Just remember, even if you break the cycle, things still may not go your way.
If it makes you feel any better, In your situation, I would at least break [censored]'s nose, then walk away from the marriage. It would be the wrong thing to do, but I would probably do it. However, I highly recommend you stay away from mr. [censored] and let his sleaze slough off on someone else's fist. Guys like him aren't typically very well liked - or tolerated, so take comfort in the fact that his life will eventually suck worse than it does already.
Oh, and for what she sees in him - easily controlled target of opportunity.
I hope that your situation improves soon.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
