I'm trying to understand if I should step up more and alleviate the pressure by allowing her to go to him. Making it easy for her to spend time with him.
NO!
Let her decide but you must be the better man. This is not a decision she will make based soley on logic. A strong, confident man is not going to share his wife with another man. The issue here isn't about who is giving your wife more pressure. Be in control, stand up for what you believe in, but don't be controlling. You can handle it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
