Thanks so much for your replies! Busy day yesterday-big gang of gfs and their kids(27 in all!) for late late lunch! A lot of work but all part of my GAL stuff for me. And I had a blast!
Didn`t get a chance to post though-and internet down this am so hence delay!
Really do appreciate your collective wisdom though! This is a lonely station and there are times when even my two real life confidantes(vbf and sister) just don`t get why I`m hanging on in here!
Went to my lawyer today and he said if I agreed to go to mediation I would be going under false pretences as I didn`t want to separate at this point.He said other useful stuff too and also that my marriage was dead, I should face the music etc.
I hadn`t been in the lawyer`s office since those dark days back in Dec when I had to go to court and both the secretary and lawyer were clearly amazed by how much better I looked.That was great feedback.
As you say Cat
"They thought we would end up like them--confused, upset, in pain, etc. The happier you are, the worse that they will feel"
that describes my H`s position now.
H even told me that it would be easier for him if I would be miserable so I`m pretty sure his acts f anger/upset/sadness/madness/threats to tell the children/demanding separation are all part of the same thing;ie make me jump to his command and be miserable.
H hanging around today so I can`t stay on too long! Will try to bounce over to a few posts now though.
