To me love is committment to the relationship despite occasional differences. To Mark love is respect, more important than the love itself. We failed each other.
Last time I moved I closed the door to xh when I did. It was not proper dbing that I told him - I've kept the door & my heart open to you. When I leave our home, both are closing. If you have any doubts or 2nd thoughts, speak before my moving date or it will be a lost cause. - Of course he didn't believe I would ever close the door, he continued to call and bother me, but I was already seeing Mark and was quite serious about no more chances with the ex. A year later he resurfaced and was suffering from remorse and regret. Too late, way too late. At that time I considered Mark a doll. He was a rock & things were going very well with him. I know it didn't work to give the exh an ultimatum. I know it's not a good stategy, but I am tempted to put the cards on the table to Mark. Telling him I have been open to reconciliation, but that I will bury him in my past when I move unless he indicates any interest. Even if he says, maybe but I need more time. If he's still resolved to live without me because he feels I didn't respect his wishes once, then I am letting go and not looking back.
