Just my opinion....if you are pressuring her to not go, or she feels that you are...not good. If she feels he's pressuring her to go, or she feels that he is...not good.
So, if one of you were to let up on the pressure....IMO, that's who's going to win this battle.
It's hard, I know. You'll make the right choice though.
I'm not pressuring her. But she has pressure from him to attend. I'm trying to understand if I should step up more and alleviate the pressure by allowing her to go to him. Making it easy for her to spend time with him.
The other option is for me to just stay in the background and let her decide. I'm not making it easy for her but I'm not pressuring. She does have pressure from me though regardless. She knows I love her and she said it hurts her to do things with him because she knows she's hurting me. Seems like a little bit of that kind of pressure might be good. I dont want to take all the pressure off because then OM won't need to pressure her and I think thats a big place where he can fail.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
