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[RedSoxFan]

If you REALLY want to win this battle, you have to be the one to relieve the pressure on her. She will remember it. Tell her to go on the trip. You’re fine with it. Tell her you don’t want to be the one to add to her stress or make her feel bad about living her life. You just want her to live a good one…with or without. Preferably with you, but good no matter what.

I really, really want to win this battle.

Your suggestion above is exactly what my gut is telling me Stronger but it goes counter to a lot of the advice given on this site. I'm afraid that I could be working toward making her completely comfortable in the current situation and relationship with OM. That scares me to death.