Divorce is Hell.....Custody too

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Not sure where you got that from, but my depression days are over. I do have a smile on my face - short of dealing with this stuff that is tough. And I never did have a back bone. I have a new man in my life now who has made a real change for me. I have done my best not to use the kids as a go between. H refused to communicate with me since early June, he only communicates through the kids. Now after the hearings he is communicating w/me again. I text my son my love for him, my daughter I tell everyday. My son has been pulled to his fathers side. All I can do is tell him I love him and wait for the day that he realizes the truth in what has happened, that his father is not the supreme being he thinks he is and I am not the devil. His father blames me for them living at his father's house so he has passed that onto my son which is WRONG! I do not share what is going on with my kids unless necessary like custody stuff.

The court told H that S13 was 13, therefore a child and does not get to make decisions. He was highly upset with that, told the court that he lets his kids make their own decisions. At least someone had some sense! They said he has to see me. But we both have to go to counseling, which I was going to anyway, for the last 2 yrs, D9 and I, and when I wanted S to go he refused. So I am glad they are requiring it of him. His father won't go and sees it as a bad thing so he passed that along as well. And now he has to take him and go himself if required to show support. Finally something in this D that made sense!