Dear Stuck, just dropping in after reading some of your posts. So many of your questions I have asked about my spouse! It is like alcoholism- I am trying to accept the fact that our Ss need to seek help themselves and then wondering how anyone can stay depressed for so long, etc, and projection-itis. And all the times I thought about grinding up some anti-depressants in my H's food!!! I don't like that you are going through something familiar, but it does make me feel stronger that I'm not the only one asking these questions! So, thanks.