HELP!!! I need my DB brothers and sisters!

[missmyfriend]

Grace & ACJ
The boys have a Court of Honor at scouts tonight. I am hoping that my older son will go but I am concerned that he may end up dropping out of scouts while he is so close to getting his Eagle (he should have it done within the next 12 months). I would not be disappointed in him but I know that someday he would. Now that he is in high school and his interests have widened considerably, and he is living with his mom, I feel less empowered to help him with his decisions.

Both my D and my older S will be coming to the house Friday and Saturday (which was a nice surprise). I want to display the dad they have known and not one that is sad about the diminished time together.

And I completely understand that they are with their friends, school, etc more than their parents. I think that what was nice was seeing them for a few minutes in the morning before school and then kissing and hugging them goodnight when they got to bed. I was used to them being out with their friends and not this.

I do appreciate your pointing out the reality, ACJ. It helps to put things into perspective, instead of constantly looking at the circumstances that haunt me.

Stuck
Thank you, buddy. I appreciate that.

As I am having more and more moments where the "feeling" of loss is not overwhelming me, I begin to look at things I have been wanting to get done around the house. I am trying to get it organized with much of the stuff we don't need often, packed up. Also, I need to get the house in shape, painting, replacing the carpeting, repairing some outside cosmetic issues on the house and working on landscaping. I would prefer to sell the house and get something more easy to maintain.

If I can get myself moving in that direction, I think that would be beneficial to me and the kids.