I've done lots of the school related friendy stuff, I do fine, that's old hat.
The difference is deliberately going out together on a date...but ya, I need to not care what the heck people think.
We do the friendy family time thing every once in a while.
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Forgive me for projecting a bit, but this is just my reading -- in your eyes, Monsoor is HIM, the guy that visited all this crap on you (frankly, he's that guy in my eyes, too, but my eyes don't really matter here FWIW). As long as that's the case, "companionship" beyond Friendiness just don't seem to be in order, ya know?
Yes. I know. That is how I feel. But I also feel that within our marriage, I really hurt him. I know it sounds ridiculous and the past is the past but IF we were going to look at each other through a "new lens" as I asked him to do with me...I don't know what would have to happen for me to do so.
Thanks for the support and the kind words. It helps.
I'm actually still feeling good. I sort of experience this like watching a movie...into it but easily over it.
remaining on the sidelines here re: the decision but sending you good vibes.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
AAK, What you do depends on your goal. Decide what you want. Work backwards from the goal and it helps planning the journey. You can handle it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
But I also feel that within our marriage, I really hurt him. I know it sounds ridiculous and the past is the past but IF we were going to look at each other through a "new lens" as I asked him to do with me...I don't know what would have to happen for me to do so.
You say you've read a lot about NPD. Seriously...you can't hurt his feelings. He doesn't have any. You can injure his all consuming ego, but that's not the same thing.
If you really have researched NPD...then I know you've read that it's hard-wired NOT to change.
AAK, What you do depends on your goal. Decide what you want. Work backwards from the goal and it helps planning the journey. You can handle it.
Cheers
Coach, I am so open now to all of the possibilities. I am starting over in every area of my life...career, where I will live, dating, making friends...
Honestly, I am "finding myself"...and I am enjoying it.
But, the goal...I don't have one anymore other than handling my life with sanity and civility and setting small goals that I can meet.
Where H fits in this, I'm not sure. But, I know I do not feel good this morning, so that's a clue.
I responded to the text but not the email invitation.
Do what works.