Quote: Why do you think this guy's such a loser, as I do? I need to know.
I'm not a man so I can only address the question from the female view point. Any man who is willing for our first sexual encounter to be on the couch, in the home that another man is paying for has no respect for me or himself. I could have no respect for him. Any man who would be willing to to do that with a newly separated woman who is emotioanally weak is looking for one thing....sex and it probably has very little to do with any feelings he might have about her.
Teenagers have sex on the couch. Teenagers lose control and screw on the couch. Jesus, the are adults, in a bad situation and they don't have enough self-control to handle themselves in an adult fashion. The guy is a sleaze bag and he is taking advantage of her vulnerability.
My question is why do you "need" to know why we think he is a jerk? You can't convince her of that no matter what argument you come up with. That is something she is going to have to see herself and the more you try and help her see it the longer it is going to take her to see it. Let it go Brian. It's just worry over more stuff you have no control over. Cathy~
