Sure, I think it seems obvious to me and prob. most people that you would want to spend the night with him, do something special. But I think some men need stuff spelled out for them (prob. some women too although I think we tend to be a bit more perceptive sometimes). Also, I found that when my H would travel for work the night before was not a night I wanted to spend time with him. He'd be stressed out and cranky and not really a good time to spend with him. In that case, maybe ask your H for special plans 2 nights before the trip?
Also, instead of confronting him over the phone, sounds like you argued about his treating you while he's on a trip and busy, maybe wait until he gets home and then do a discussion about how you feel when he treats you like that, and just communicating with him your feelings, but not accusing or yelling or whatever.
