Of course you do, but you aren’t listening to anyone on this board or any of the advice they gave you. So far, you have badgered him. You have accused him. You have told him over and over you love him. How is that working out for you? From all that I’ve read, horribly. I am being harsh, I know, but you don’t seem to be “hearing” anyone….so I’m not using any sugar coating here, I’m not going to hold back. STOP TALKING ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP. Every time you bring it up, you give him the opportunity to say out loud he wants out in some way or fashion. You give him the opportunity to say to your face why he’s unhappy….as outlandish as it may be, he gets to tell you he’s unhappy. Every time you talk about the R, do you feel better afterward? Nope. So why why why do you keep talking about it? If he brings it up, stop it. “I want out of this marriage!” You say, “I’m sorry you feel you need to leave the marriage….I know you must be having a hard time.” And stop there. He takes off his ring….you MUST act as if you didn’t notice. You have got to stop saying I love you.
Let me ask you this: Do you REALLY think he wants to leave you for a woman with three children? REALLY? I think that relationship is flourishing, if it is, because of you. Here are his options: Angry fights with you, where you pressure him and make him feel guilty so he then lashes out at you, saying mean things to hurt your feelings. OR, comfortable, relaxing conversations with someone else. What choice would you make if you were him? My opinion….does she want your H? Very possible. Does your H really want her? Probably not. But he does want peace and he’s not getting it with you.
And another thing, your GAL list is short. What you have on there is good stuff. What else do you want to add to it?
