Bad news, ladies. PMing is disabled here. Theoretically, we are not supposed to be able to find each other off the board. Many folks have managed to connect on FB. If I was going to do that, I'd look for Kalni Sunshine, and ask to be her friend, making sure she knows where you came from. I kind of bury this in a paragraph, because I am not 100% sure how it fits into the policy. There was a fairly large blowup some time ago about posting personal email addresses, you really don't want to go there.
((((((Oz)))))) I think you've gotten good advice! Good luck!
I'm all for the 180 Oz but do we have to be upbeat ALL the time - especially when something sad is happening .. like packing up your home?? I'm wondering if your H is less likely to say something positive for fear of treading on your toes at this stage. For example, my H told me initially that he thought that I wanted him to leave as I had asked him too (in temper, you understand)... the aliens take things so literally when they are in MLC. Of course, now he can genuinely say that he has gone because it was what I wanted - even though it was very definitely not!
Perhaps if your H sees you happy about leaving, he will feel that this is truly what you want ... get my drift? Perhaps some reverse psychology is needed ... I don't know - what do others think? Is it 'normal' to be happy all the time??
Is S home yet??
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WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Nell you may have a point, maybe I won't dance around the boxes, but I will listen to music. I don't think being pleasant and happy will matter I won't be excessively happy. Oh, I don't know I am confused as to how I should be in front of H tonight with the packing.
Anyone else got any suggestions, hopefully fairly soon as I will have to log off and start packing or it will be midnight before I know it.
S left Newcastle about an hour ago, the drive will take him around 12 or so hours, with stops on the way for rest and food.
Removalists confirmed they will be here at 8am in the morning.
Really need urgent advice now on how I should react around H tonight.
Oh dear - I do hope that I didn't open a can of worms for you .. it's bad enough as it is. I'm sorry, if so.
I'm thinking that maybe just tone down the happy, happy and yes, defo listen to the music! Maybe acting 'normal' and then react as best you can (in DB'er style) if anything is said, will appear a bit more genuine than trying to appear totally happy about what is going on??
Gee, S has a long journey ahead - my calculations say that he should get home around 6-7am ... he's going to be totally whacked out, which will put you in to 'mum on overdrive' mode and I doubt if H will be able to rattle you at that point!
No you didn't open a can of worms Nell, but you did highlight to me that I shouldn't be happy happy happy.
Yes I always worry, once he is on the road and I don't rest until he arrives at his destination, it is such a long trip on your own, he is used to it, but I still worry.
Trying to pack but keep coming back here, already had one glass of wine which probably isn't a good idea.
So glad that I didn't make things worse - it's hard when you are new and the temptation to say wise things is huge - if you get it wrong however, you risk alienation and we all have quite enough of that right now!
With S on the road, you once again need to draw on faith and know that he has made that journey before so yes, he will be fine. You will be able to breath more easily when he is home though, I understand that. Just keep picturing how wonderful it will be having him there with you - and for all those cuddles!
The wine is most definitely a good idea! Not too many though, OK? You have a big day ahead and, although it makes us feel good for the here and now, alcohol is a depressant, so keep that in mind (oh, I'm such a kill-joy today)!
I just laughed at myself for being like a caged lion - I'm back and forth my emails and checking for new posts ... back and forth, back and forth ... how unhealthy is that? What a sad-sack that this is all my life is. I'm so envious of you folk who have family and friends around you ... I'm not going to give in and go back to the UK but how I wish that I just had some company - I'm sure that this would be a little easier on me then
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Well, here's some news. H comes home 8.30pm, mentions something about work tomorrow, I asked him if he was going to work, he says yes, says he didn't know the move was tomorrow, that I didn't tell him. Said that I told him when he asked me a few weeks ago what date I booked the removalist. He thought we moved next Thursday. Shows how much he has been listening, not.
Upshot is he is going to work tomorrow, so I am left with the kids to do the move.
Isn't that just great. No wonder he has been so laid back about it all.
Ok Oz, this is the time when you probably want to scream! Scream here and keep your cool at home. Take control of the move in the same positive, calm and rational manner you have handled things to date. Take it in your stride. You have the opportunity to show H once again how in control and unflappable you are.
Get some good sleep tonight cos it's going to be a hectic day. (I thought dining out and footy were pretty ambitious on moving day.)
Trying not to scream Cas, but I just couldn't believe it. I don't have a choice but to just do it, half the house is still not packed, but I am so tired now I just can't do any more.
