BBJ..listen..no matter what you hear..Divorce is never easy, it's never nice..
there is always an ulterior motive for anything that is done..
go file...go file now...go get a good lawyer..and turn the dog loose on him...and use all that you know on him to offset anything he has done...
Divorce is mean and nasty..and there are times you will mneed to get in the dirt with him to get what you want and need to protect those kids and make sure their needs are met..