Bbj, he is mean and nusty and probably shocked because of what the financial consequences of the divorce are. He may even be affected by his latest OW that thinks "that is too much to pay". Sorry, I had to get it out of my system. Dont let his words affect you. You are now entering a whole new phase, it's called "it sucks to be Dan". Keep it just business.
As far as the "why cant you turn it off", well, I have no idea. Struggling with the same thoughts and emotions. As I told myself last night, at least I know that my love was real and I am true to myself. Love K
