New to this Community seeking advice

[MrBond]

"I should just let go and not worry about it."

You answered yourself right there. Don't even mention the R word. Just talk about what you need to and that's that. If she starts getting into the R talk, just tell her you have plans and have to go. Then end it.

Live your life as you want to. Be the one in control. Don't let her have the power.