Disregard most of what your STBXH said - he is being a "Drama King". Dont let him push your buttons. You need to remain level headed and strong.
I think there is some sort of law about sabotaging finances so as to short change the other spouse in a D. Also, hiding assets or income is something that Dan's L will tell him is a big no no.
Now would be the right time for you to file as the petitioner. As Mike said a while back, and I agree with - the petitioner has a bit of an upper hand. Once a petition is filed with the court, this would essentially freeze assets. He could then not do something stupid like cash out his 401K. Your L should also setup pendente lite support.
With Dan's current anger towards you, it is best that the negotiation of divorce details be between the 2 lawyers who have no emotion involved. If Dan has a knowlegable L, he will be educated that it is not worth fighting it all the way to a trial.
Let the cute match.com guy know that you are going through some turmoil right now and it is best if you hold off on any dates until things settle down.
